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All you Need to Know to Officiate Your Best Friend’s Wedding

Discover all you need to know to officiate your best friend’s wedding. Find out why ‘By the power vested in me…’ are words you will never forget.

In order for a marriage to be legally binding, the wedding ceremony itself must include two key elements. Discover all you need to know to officiate your best friend's wedding.

In order for a marriage to be legally binding, the wedding ceremony itself must include two key elements. Discover all you need to know to officiate your best friend’s wedding.

So, you’ve been asked to officiate your best friend’s wedding. Definitely on fleek. To be entrusted by one’s best friend to take the sacred role of a priest or judicial official in his or her wedding is a big deal. Forget fear and anxiety, doing the honor is a full and rewarding experience.

Still, you may want to take a quick look at what you need to know and how to prepare to officiate your best friend’s wedding.

How do you Become Ordained to Officiate your Best Friend’s Wedding?

Definitely, you need to be a legal officiant to officiate your best friend’s wedding. Each state has its own say on who can and cannot officiate marriage ceremonies; even legalities in individual municipalities within states vary as well.

Overall, it’s a simple process that can take place online. But most states do require marriage officiants to be over 18 years old.

Next, call the registrar in the township hosting the wedding and find out the criteria for legality. The internet is your buddy. Check online to get the rules and policies that apply to your state.



Be creative when officiating a friend's wedding. This alternative unity ceremony will help love grow.

Be creative when officiating a friend’s wedding. This alternative unity ceremony will help love grow.

Have the officiant wear a GoPro during the wedding and get a whole new perspective on the ceremony.

Have the officiant wear a GoPro during the wedding and get a whole new perspective on the ceremony.

Find out What the Couple Wants

Although you are officiating your best friend’s wedding, it is still their wedding. Have a sit-down with the couple you are marrying and hash things out. Ask them if they can provide a basic outline you could later personalize. You don’t want to ruin their moment by deviating from the tone and vibe they have in mind.

Are there specific traditions to incorporate, or family members to recognize? Are certain religious rites included? Is it going for to be an offbeat and informal affair, or a serious and important tribute?

Moreover, some couples like surprises when their best friend officiates their wedding, while others want veto power on every detail of the ceremony. Regardless of their preference, know their stance on risqué jokes or references. You might know your soon-to-be-wed pals to the letter, but never jump to conclusions or make assumptions.

Ask, take note, and make their day lit.




Love this romantic wedding photo captured by Robert Hall Photography. A home ceremony in Michigan.

Love this romantic wedding photo captured by Robert Hall Photography. A home ceremony in Michigan.

One of the most expected moments of the wedding ceremony: the kiss. Photo: Lisa Czech Photography.

One of the most expected moments of the wedding ceremony: the kiss. Photo: Lisa Czech Photography.

Don't forget about the send off part of the ceremony. Use cute prints or newspaper to make the cones and your wedding colors for the confetti.

Don’t forget about the send off part of the ceremony. Use cute prints or newspaper to make the cones and your wedding colors for the confetti.

Research and Prepare to Officiate your Best Friend’s Wedding

Starting earlier—weeks or months before the wedding—will keep you in control. Study wedding clips (similar to the one you’ll be officiating) and take note of length, specific jokes, structure, traditions, etc.

In preparing your delivery, collect memorable materials specific to the couple, and enlist the help of an editor if necessary. If the couple doesn’t want surprises, run your final wedding script by them and get their veto.

Jewish law does not require that marriages be performed by a rabbi. Photo: G. Chapin Studios.

Jewish law does not require that marriages be performed by a rabbi. Photo: G. Chapin Studios.

Don’t Forget to Plan a Rehearsal

Rehearsals are a must-have. You wouldn’t dare going in blind when officiating your best friend’s wedding.

Traditionally, the officiant heads the rehearsal. Sometimes the wedding planner leads everything. Be sure to talk with the couple to figure out whether a wedding planning play might come into play.

And if you are assigned to plan the rehearsal, plan the ceremony to a tight perfection. Is it an overwhelming job? Yes. Humbling and touching? Of course. So you really don’t want to blow it. Thankfully, rehearsals help every party know what is required of them and when.

You need to be a legal officiant to officiate your best friend's wedding, but it will be well worth the effort. Rancho Palos Verdes from The Brandon Kidd Photography.

You need to be a legal officiant to officiate your best friend’s wedding, but it will be well worth the effort. Rancho Palos Verdes from The Brandon Kidd Photography.

Who knows? Maybe you will also get a nice bottle of Jacks when the couple proposes to you.

Who knows? Maybe you will also get a nice bottle of Jacks when the couple proposes to you.

As a friend of the couple you may wear tartan kilts if the wedding you are officiating is Scottish.

As a friend of the couple you may wear tartan kilts if the wedding you are officiating is Scottish.

How to Officiate your Best Friend’s Wedding: The Order of Events

Just in case planning the rehearsal is absolutely your responsibility, here’s the usual order of events: the procession, opening remarks, the charge to the couple, the exchange of vows, the exchange of rings, the pronouncement of marriage, the kiss, the closing remarks and the recessional.

The charge to the couple is where you remind the couple about their duties and roles in marriage.

The recessional refers to the formal exit of the bridal party, just as the procession refers to its entrance. The order is slightly different according to the faith, so make sure you research it in advance.

'By the power vested in me...’ and ‘I now pronounce you’ will never feel so wonderfully tense and palpable.

‘By the power vested in me…’ and ‘I now pronounce you’ will never feel so wonderfully tense and palpable.

There is no need for you to wear official wedding minister attire.

There is no need for you to wear official wedding minister attire.

Getting ordained is simple.-If your friends ask you to officiate at their wedding, do it.

Getting ordained is simple.-If your friends ask you to officiate at their wedding, do it.

How to Officiate Your Best Friend’s Wedding: Make it Legit

For a marriage to be legally binding, the ceremony must include two key elements. The intent and the Pronouncement. The intent is where you ask the couple if they take this person to be their lawful wedding partner. The Pronouncement is where you get to say “I now pronounce you.” Make sure these two elements are included in your wedding ceremony script!

After performing the ceremony, comes the most important paperwork: filling out the marriage license. Properly and fully fill the application and make sure you bring it to the wedding. The license should be returned promptly to the correct authority after the ceremony to ensure that it doesn’t expire. Marriage licenses tend to have a 30 to 60 day validity. This is the officiant’s responsibility in the majority of the states. You can mail the license, but dropping it off in person is preferred in order to avoid any unforeseen complications.

Photo Gallery that will Inspire You to Officiate your Best Friend’s Wedding

Now you might want to start ruminating on details—what you will be holding the procession, pulpit logistics, microphone, binder, etc. Relax. Draft a delivery that is intimate and humorous. And practice your near-final draft in front of a small audience before D-day.

Although you cannot officiate your best friend's wedding at City Hall, get inspired by this fab idea!

Although you cannot officiate your best friend’s wedding at City Hall, get inspired by this fab idea!

I love the idea of an unplugged ceremony. People shouldn't be ruining somebody else's special moment. They do turn off the phone at the movies. amiright?

I love the idea of an unplugged ceremony. People shouldn’t be ruining somebody else’s special moment. They do turn off the phone at the movies. amiright?

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The Cuban-Inspired Wedding: A 2017 Tropical Trend with Lots of Sabor

Throw the perfect Cuban-inspired wedding bash with these easy tips and must haves featuring Havana cigars, Señoritas and mojitos!

Imagine your wedding. Hanging greenery, colorful flowers as centerpieces, candles in pink votives over a rustic wood table with wooden folding chairs. Parrot optional.

Imagine your wedding. Hanging greenery, colorful flowers as centerpieces, candles in pink votives over a rustic wood table with wooden folding chairs. Parrot optional.

Mix vintage deco, retro and abundantly lush greenery together and your fantastic Cuban-inspired wedding theme is almost ready.

The renewed interest in Cuban culture, with its bright and tropical colors coupled with fluid flamenco-style bridal gowns, has become a trend in this year’s weddings. Their color palette of deep purples, turquoise, tangy mandarin, bright corals, sunny yellows, playful fuchsias and greenery (Pantone’s color of the year) has all the ingredients for a fun and carefree wedding. Complete the Cuban-inspired wedding theme with Latin food and drinks and delicious rum infused cocktails.

Cuban-Inspired Wedding Decor: The Kingdom of Art Deco

Cuba is an exotic place brimming with passion. A Cuban-inspired wedding will reflect the couple’s passionate love for each other. With a fusion of Spanish, African and Caribbean cultures, Cuba offers ample inspiration for the reception’s food, music and attire.

The wedding decor will be the final touch that will complete the illusion of a Cuban adventure for guests. One only has to imagine Havana in the twenties to paint the scene at the house of an “hacendado” on a tobacco or sugar plantation. Carved wood with floral motifs, voluptuous palm trees and ferns, broad cane chairs and a wedding palette with brushstrokes of brown, turquoise, orange, ivory and of course the Pantone color of the year, greenery in the centerpieces, and on the tableware and cushions.

Have some antiques handy? Decorate the room with them. Take advantage of old Cuban cigar boxes if you have any, or use rum bottles to save on creative centerpieces with tropical flowers such as heliconias, birds of paradise or orchids. Place a cigar with a personalized label as a wedding favor on each plate. Now we are getting fancy!

Accompany the Cuban-inspired wedding decor with an exotic menu and cocktails with a defined Cuban accent. So bring out the rum. It’s time to have fun in an elegant way!

Lily gold and amber over topaz slate at The Ebell Club in Long Beach. Wedding photographer: Suzy Van Dyke.

Lily gold and amber over topaz slate at The Ebell Club in Long Beach. Wedding photographer: Suzy Van Dyke.

Bring Cuba into your wedding and your backyard with these succulent centerpiece ideas.

Bring Cuba into your wedding and your backyard with these succulent centerpiece ideas.

Tropical Cuban-Inspired Weddings with Cuban “Sabor”: Eat, Drink and Be Merry!

Mojitos are the perfect cocktail for Cuban-inspired weddings. Accompany them with tempting meat pies or “empanadas” and crispy tostones. Among other drinks, you can serve Cuba Libre, which is a mixture of rum, Coca-Cola and lime juice, or mojitos with non-traditional flavors such as peach, cherry or pineapple. Do not forget to add some Cuban-inspired non-alcoholic beverages such as guava, coconut, or lime flavored water.

Here is a very ingenious idea for a mojito bar. Use fresh mint to make unique ice cubes. Take a little mint, put it in each of the ice tray spaces and then fill it with water. Let the water turn into ice and there you have it. Great idea for a summer wedding.

The Blushing Cuban passionfruit raspberry cocktail is a vibrant & exotic blend of fresh passionfruit, raspberries and Cuban rum.

The Blushing Cuban passionfruit raspberry cocktail is a vibrant & exotic blend of fresh passionfruit, raspberries and Cuban rum.

Cuba is famous for its meat dishes. Some of the main course choices for your party might be “Ropa Vieja”, “Masitas de Puerco” or marinated fried pork, oxtail stew or grilled ribs. For a lighter meal, you can offer “sandwich medianoche” that can be served either hot or cold, hence its name since you can eat them after a night of painting the town red. And where will you find more merriment than at a Cuban wedding? The midnight sandwich has grilled or fried pork slices with cheese pressed between toasted French bread slices with butter on both sides (and well pressed).

Add a fresh and colorful Cuban salad. You will only need tomatoes, onions and radish slices sprinkled with olive oil, vinegar and lemon juice. Or a chickpea salad with green and red peppers and sweet yellow onions with a dressing made from fresh lime juice, olive oil, and a pinch of cumin. Yummylicious!

A delicious Cuban-Rican recipe: Sofrito salsa and tostones.

A delicious Cuban-Rican recipe: Sofrito salsa and tostones.

Blueberry lavender mojito, refreshing and pretty.

Blueberry lavender mojito, refreshing and pretty.




It’s time for Desserts!

Pick some of these delicious temptations to complete your wedding menu. Flan served in individual cups and sprinkled with a little cinnamon or nutmeg, or “merenguitos” (mini meringues) made of egg whites beaten with sugar and then baked.

You also have arroz con leche topped with cinnamon and juicy raisins. Then, for some pastry or cake options, there are señoritas, pastelitos and capuchinos. Señoritas are confectionary made with layers of puff pastry filled with custard cream, served in a variety of vanilla or chocolate flavors. They are very similar to the Napoleon. Pastelitos are small pastry buns stuffed with guava, cream cheese, or shredded coconut drizzled with syrup. And the Cuban capuchinos and cabezotes are small cakes shaped like a yellow cone, soaked in a syrup made with cinnamon, orange and lemon peel, and anise. You will want to lick your fingers! (Just not at the wedding … do it in the kitchen) 😉

For the dessert table you may present sweet coconut candy, guava candy, more merenguitos or nougat.

Cuban domino cookies by the Cookie Connection.

Cuban domino cookies by the Cookie Connection.

Adorable and original memory of your wedding. Mint mojito flavored lollipop.

Adorable and original memory of your wedding. Mint mojito flavored lollipop.

Cuban-Inspired Wedding Photo Gallery

Cuban Wedding Traditions

Let’s take a look at a couple of Cuban wedding traditions and feel free to incorporate something beyond the Cuban decor to your wedding!

Money is Always Welcome at the Onset of a New Lifetime Adventure

The money dance is another very old tradition at Cuban weddings. Guests would dance with the bride and pin money on her dress to help the couple off to a great start.

Usually, the bride’s family pays for the wedding, and both the bride and groom’s parents give an important gift to the newlyweds, like money or a house. Nice tradition, right? 😉

Cuban-inpired wedding cake surrounded by coral flowers. Dreamy! Wedding photographer: Jose Villa Photography.

Cuban-inpired wedding cake surrounded by coral flowers. Dreamy! Wedding photographer: Jose Villa Photography.

Cuban Wedding Favors

Another Cuban tradition is for the couple to thank their guests by giving them a small handmade gift or some personalized ribbons with their names on them. If the wedding calls for it, the favor becomes a good Cuban cigar to celebrate the union.

Proper Cuban-Inspired Wedding Attire for The Couple and Guests

Cuban wedding dresses are stunningly beautiful and white (if the bride is a virgin). If she’s not, tradition dictates her dress should be red. Fortunately this tradition is almost gone and a bride can wear a red wedding dress just because she wants to!

With so much dancing, delicious food and drinks to look forward to, dressing comfortably and elegantly is a must. Ladies may wear summer cocktail dresses, while gentlemen can wear linen guayaberas, shirts with tropical motifs and elegant fedora hats. Everything should remind you of old Havana and a tropical paradise.

These 1940s iconic and adorable navy blue suede heel pumps are a classic and will match a vintage theme to perfection.

These 1940s iconic and adorable navy blue suede heel pumps are a classic and will match a vintage theme to perfection.

Original bridesmaid dress for a Cuban-inspired wedding. Wedding photographer: Jose Villa Photography.

Original bridesmaid dress for a Cuban-inspired wedding. Wedding photographer: Jose Villa Photography.

We hope these ideas will help you organize your Cuban-inspired wedding reception. Make sure to check more wedding inspiration ideas on our Pinterest boards!

Fabulous Cuban-Inspired Wedding Ideas Photo Gallery

Decor and details for Cuban-inspired weddings.

Decor and details for Cuban-inspired weddings. Cuban Party Photobooth Props by Pure Simple Things. Custom Printable Cigar Band Napkin Ring.

Hibiscus and palm leaves decorating ideas for a tropical wedding. Wedding photograper: Krista Jones Photography.

Hibiscus and palm leaves decorating ideas for a tropical wedding. Wedding photograper: Krista Jones Photography.

Ultra original Cuban tile invitations. Photography by Heatherjeany on Flickr.

Ultra original Cuban tile invitations. Photography by Heatherjeany on Flickr.

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Original and Best Wedding Wishes to Write on a Wedding Card

We’ve rounded up a collection of the best wedding wishes to write on your wedding card! Get inspired or copy away!

Put your gorgeous engagement portraits to good use with this easy multisided card box that lends itself well to any wedding style.

Put your gorgeous engagement portraits to good use with this easy multisided card box that lends itself well to any wedding style.

Engagement season is in full swing so it’s time to brush up on all the wedding wishes you’ll need to write inside those wedding cards soon. From casual wedding greetings to religious wedding wishes, we have your wedding cards covered.

How to Congratulate the Soon-To-Be Married Couple

It can be difficult to come up with something original to write on a wedding card that hasn’t been said a thousand times before. The old rule of thumb used to be “congratulate” the groom and offer the bride “best wishes.” Today, either one works, or you can choose a different sentiment that fits your relationship to the couple instead.

Whether you’re attending the wedding or not, it’s customary to send your well wishes to the soon-to-be married couple. If you’re attending the wedding, you can bring a card with you even if you already sent a gift in advance, or you can send a card before or after the wedding date.

Otherwise, you can mail it directly to the happy couple or hand it over in person on any occasion before the wedding.

What to Write on a Wedding Card

While there are no carved in stone rules for what needs to go on the card, there are some basic etiquette rules you can follow.

The most meaningful inscriptions are ones that were customized for the couple based on your personal relationship with them. Use or gather inspiration from these wedding wishes to ensure that your wedding card is heartfelt and treasured for years to come.

Remember that what you write in the wedding card will depend on your style, how well you know the couple and what your relationship with them is.



Wedding messages. What to write on a wedding card. A step-by-step simple plan for writing the perfect wedding wishes.

Wedding messages. What to write on a wedding card. A step-by-step simple plan for writing the perfect wedding wishes.

Formal Wedding Congratulations

For a couple you aren’t personally close with, more traditional wedding wishes are in order. There are still plenty of ways to make your formal greeting stand out. These are some great ideas for traditional wishes that are perfect for sweet and formal wedding cards.

  • “Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness.”
  • “Congratulations on your marriage.”
  • “Wishing you all the best as you begin your new lives together.”
  • May today be just the beginning of a lifetime of happiness together.

Best Casual Wishes to Write on a Wedding Card

Wedding card messages for family, friends, and close work associates are often more casual and allow you to express your feelings more freely.

You may have spent years of your life with this couple, and you’re as happy for them as they are with each other. This wedding card will mean a lot to them, so it is important to properly convey your emotions. Here are a few ways to show them how truly happy you are for them as they start a new chapter in their lives.

  • “So happy for you two!”
  • “Cheers to a fantastic couple!”
  • “All our best as you begin your marriage!”
  • You are two amazing people. Or, maybe I should say, one amazing couple. Congrats!
  • We’re so happy for you! May your lives be enriched by each other.
  • Congratulations! And thank you for letting us be part of your special day.
  • May you celebrate every day together the way you have celebrated today.
How to write a wedding card. And so the adventure begins....

How to write a wedding card. And so the adventure begins….

How to Write Funny Wedding Wishes

Weddings aren’t all serious business. Funny wedding messages are appropriate as long as they’re in good taste and you know the couple’s sense of humor! A funny wedding greeting could even make your card stand out.

Funny wedding wishes are a great way to add your own personal style to the wedding card. Keep things light with these witty phrases perfect for a laid-back couple!

  • “Finally!”
  • “Congratulations and remember Happy Wife, Happy Life!”
  • There’s no backing out now! (I have a getaway car outside if you change your mind.)”
  • Here’s to limiting your options: ’til death do us part.’
  • Did you know sequoia trees live 1,300 years? If your marriage ever gets old, just be glad you’re not sequoias.

What to Write on a Wedding Card to a Close Family Member

When writing a wedding card for a close family member, go personal! Unless your relationship is tense, in which case you may want to go with a more general message. If you are the best of friends, let those feelings show. Mention some joyful memory from the past, something you admire in them, or quote one of their sayings! But above it all, don’t forget their better half!

  • From a parent – “This is a day we’ve been thinking of since you were just a little girl/boy. We’re thrilled you have a wonderful person like _______ to spend the rest of your life with.”
  • To a brother- or sister-in-law – “You’re the brother/sister I never had. Welcome to the family! We love you!”
  • The only thing that could make us more excited now is grandchildren!
Recipe for joyful living by torrie t. asai.

Recipe for joyful living by torrie t. asai.

How to Write the Best Wedding Wishes for a Friend

Wedding card greetings for a friend are more personal tone. Still, it’s best not to go overboard. Express your feelings, share a memory or go with a casual wedding wish but keep it classy! This is a keepsake!

  • “We’ve been friends our whole lives, and I’ve never been happier for you. Congratulations to you both!”
  • “I’ve watched my dear friend fall in love with a wonderful (man or woman), and I’m honored to stand with you today as you become husband and wife.”
  • We hope your wedding bliss fills you with as much happiness as it has for us. We love you both very much and congratulations.

When to Write a Religious Wedding Card

Not all couples are religious, but if you know religion is very important to the bride and groom, you may want to write a religious wedding card. Especially if you are religious too as it will sound more sincere and heart-felt.

  • “May God bless your marriage and your lives together.”
  • “Mazel Tov!”
  • Blessed is the one who created human beings. Bless the two of you. May you know it all–joy and struggle, beauty and sorrow, sweat, tears, solitude, companionship, laughter and ecstasy. May your marriage be strong enough to support you to experience whatever you must as you come to know yourselves and each other and to discover the entire range of your humanity in the process of soul making. (the Sheva Brachot)
  • You two are truly blessed. May the blessings continue for both of you. Congratulations on your wedding!
  • The strongest marriages are built on the strong foundation of our Lord.
  • We are praying that God guides you in your new adventure. May God pour out blessings on you both.
Two are better than one Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.

Two are better than one Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.

Original Wedding Wishes on Social Media Posts

If a card isn’t your style or you’ve already sent ahead a gift, posting on their social media timeline is a fun way to go. Social media well wishes can go from a simple “best wishes” to posting a memorable picture on their wall. Remember la abuela may be reading the post!




Best Belated Wedding Wishes

Forgetfulness happens to the best of us, especially if we cannot make the wedding. It’s late but send a card anyway for them to read after their honeymoon. You’ll get bonus points if you include a gift card!

  • “We’re sorry to have missed your special day, but we wish you a lifetime of happiness!”
  • “It’s never too late to congratulate you on your wedding and send our wishes for a happy life together!”

Funny engagement or wedding card. Congratulations card.

Unique Wedding Wishes to Write on a Wedding Card

Combine some of the ideas above to your own inspiration to write the most unique wedding wish. If you’re still searching for that perfect congratulatory note, here are more wedding card ideas to help you get those creative juices flowing.

  • Marriage defies the rules of mathematics because one plus one equals one.
  • “Love doesn’t make the world go ’round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” –Franklin P. Jones
  • “Husbands are like puppies… they need to be loved (and housebroken).”–Blake Flannery

In the end, there is no perfect formula for wishing the best to the people we care about. Be genuine, add your personal touch and we are certain it will be the best wedding card ever!

What to Write on a Wedding Card to a Daughter or Son.

What to Write on a Wedding Card to a Daughter or Son.

Wedding congratulations card. You tied the knot. Funny wedding card, Two is better than one and hand drawn wedding wishes. Please, leave your wishes for the new Mr & Mrs wedding sign.

Best wedding wishes ever!

Best wedding wishes ever!

Charming cards for wedding wishes. Personalized stationary, cute cards and more...

Charming cards for wedding wishes. Personalized stationary, cute cards and more…

Congrats! Best Wishes! Enjoy!

Congrats! Best Wishes! Enjoy!

Funny wedding wishes for close friends.

Funny wedding wishes for close friends.




Original wedding wishes. Cute rustic wooden box to collect your wedding cards | Happily ever after and to my mom cards

Original wedding wishes. Cute rustic wooden box to collect your wedding cards | Happily ever after and to my mom cards.

Funny wedding wishes: Chocolate Card | Congratulations card with Soy Sauce

Funny wedding wishes: Chocolate Card | Congratulations card with Soy Sauce.

The Apache Wedding blessing.

The Apache Wedding blessing.

Watercolor Card for wedding wishes!

Watercolor Card for wedding wishes!

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The Groom’s Tie: How to Choose the Right Color and Style for the Big Day

Discover how to choose the right color and style for the groom’s tie and have him look picture perfect on your big day!

Floral groom's tie, perfect for a modern or boho wedding.

Floral groom’s tie, perfect for a modern or boho wedding.

There is a fair amount of time spent picking out what the bride will be wearing on the big day, but it is important not to overlook the groom’s style. Let’s be honest, we know the bride is going to get the majority of the attention here, but the groom is going to want to look and feel great too, after all.

How To Choose the Right Color and Style for the Big Day

Sorry guys, when it comes down to the color of your tie, I’m sure the bride will have a say. But if your wedding palette has two colors, the groom can wear one of the shades while the rest of the guys wear the other.

Now that the color has been decided, let’s move on to picking the right groom’s tie. Many grooms email us asking about the fabric of a particular tie so I decided I could give a little rundown of the most common fabrics for ties.

The Groom’s Tie: How to Pick the Fabric

It’s best to start with the month the wedding will be held. Fabrics like cotton and linen who are light and breezy are perfect for summery weddings. Other fabrics like wool, tweed, cashmere and different wool blends are more suited for the winter.

Rayon, polyester and silk wear well all year round. But buyer beware when it comes down to silk neckties! There are many kinds of silk out there and the quality varies. The most commonly used for men’s ties are doupioni silk (its threads are uneven and irregular), shantung (very smooth and has hardly any slubs), silk linen (it actually has the look of linen) and satin which is glossy and smooth on one side and matte on the other.



Peach textured groom's tie. Always consider the collar width before picking the tie style! Photographer: Kristen Weaver.

Peach textured groom’s tie. Always consider the collar width before picking the tie style! Photographer: Kristen Weaver.

Blue tie fit for a civil ceremony, a daytime wedding or an elopement by zeusfactor

Blue tie fit for a civil ceremony, a daytime wedding or an elopement by zeusfactor

The Groom’s Tie: Let’s Get To Know Their Styles

What to wear? What to wear? Depending on the formality of the affair, you may want to take your pick of the following types and styles of groom’s ties. But you must also consider the collar style and width before picking the tie! Let’s review some of the groom’s tie styles.

The Necktie

A classic. This is the long tie most commonly associated with working in an office. But, that’s not to say it should not be worn for a wedding. Match the tie to the wedding colors to give a splash of color and fun to the groom’s look.

Love this handmade cotton floral tie for the civil ceremony. The groom will look so modern!

Love this handmade cotton floral tie for the civil ceremony. The groom will look so modern! (Get it here)

The Ascot

If your groom has been searching his entire life for an excuse to wear an Ascot, now is the time. An ascot is much more formal and is a folded tie that is wider than a necktie and usually won with a stickpin or tie tack. Typically, Ascots are a patterned material, but they can be neutral, think blacks or grays, or the wedding colors to match the décor.

Bow Tie

Bow ties are a symmetrical ribbon of fabric that tie together to form two loops that sit at the collar of the groom’s dress shirt. Most commonly, bow ties are worn with tuxedos, but fun, patterned bow ties also pair well with suits. Grooms can wear black bow ties for very formal looks or match the bridesmaid’s dresses when wearing a tuxedo.

Modern black suit with velvet bow tie, shawl collar, and "crown folded" pocket square.

Modern black suit with velvet bow tie, shawl collar, and “crown folded” pocket square.




The Euro Tie is a middle ground between the necktie and the Ascot. Gold orange paisley silk cravat.

The Euro Tie is a middle ground between the necktie and the Ascot. Gold orange paisley silk cravat.

Euro Tie or Cravat

The Euro Tie is a middle ground between necktie and Ascot. It’s a long tie with a square bottom, knotted at the beck and worn with a spread collar shirt. It’s formal but not quite Ascot-level formal.

Here is a great tip for grooms to look great on your big day. Make sure the widest part of your tie matches the width of the lapel chosen for your wedding.

Photo Gallery to Help you Pick your Most Fabulous Groom’s Tie

How to “Tie The Knot”: The Half-Windsor Knot

There are many ways to tie a knot (pun intended) 😉 but today we will share how to tie the Half-Windsor knot! Medium to light thickness for ties are this year’s trend. Therefore, the half-Windsor is easier and more fitting. It is also nice and symmetrical but not quite as bulky as the Windsor knot.

Modern groom's tie in gray with a Half-Windsor knot. Brooklyn Wedding by Lauren Balingit Photography.

Modern groom’s tie in gray with a Half-Windsor knot. Brooklyn Wedding by Lauren Balingit Photography.

Remember that your body type matters when picking a tie. The half-Windsor is narrower and longer and looks best on slimmer taller guys.

  1. Lay the tie around your neck and stand in front of a mirror. The wide end should be on your right and the small or narrow end should be on your left when looking into the mirror. The wider end should hang about 12 inches lower than the smaller end.
  2. In front of you, cross the wide end over the narrow end, making an “X.”
  3. Still holding the wide end, go under the small end and to the right
  4. Now, pull the wide end up to the center towards the necktie
  5. Bring the wide end through the neck loop from the front towards the back and left.
  6. Cross the wide end over the narrow end to the right
  7. Now bring it upwards again, this time from beneath the neck loop
  8. Pull it through the loop you just created in the front and then straight down
  9. Use both hands to adjust the tie until it sits tight under your collar.
  10. You look terrific!! 🙂

Grooms now is your time to shine as brightly as the bride. Ok, maybe not as brightly, but don’t miss this chance to show off your personal style when picking your tie! Most of the groom’s ties can be found and shipped worldwide at Dessy. Check them out! Now back to the brides! Discover these Timeless, Elegant and Sexy Wedding Dresses for the Modern Bride!

How good are you at tying the knot? Discover how to tie a half windsor knot! (Don't worry, this is not it) ;) Wearing a tie makes you look confident.

How good are you at tying the knot? Discover how to tie a half windsor knot! (Don’t worry, this is not it) 😉 Wearing a tie makes you look confident.

Match the tie to the wedding palette to give a splash of color and fun to the groom’s look. Wedding photography: Claryphoto.

Match the tie to the wedding palette to give a splash of color and fun to the groom’s look. Wedding photography: Claryphoto.

Matte satin bow tie and pocket square.

Matte satin bow tie and pocket square. Dessy.

There are so many ways to wear a tie... Check out this Cat Greek Ascot by Boris Mocka.

There are so many ways to wear a tie… Check out this Cat Greek Ascot by Boris Mocka.

The tie patch is a wonderful keepsake that will add to the love, happiness, and remembrance of your big wedding day!

The tie patch is a wonderful keepsake that will add to the love, happiness, and remembrance of your big wedding day! (Get yours here!)

Men's neck ties in Dupioni silk. How to pick the groom's tie.

Men’s neck ties in Dupioni silk. Dessy.

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Nine Must-See Industrial Wedding Venues in New York

Check out these nine swoon-worthy industrial wedding venues in New York and start booking yours! They go fast!

The glam of Galia Lahav intertwined with the charm of the city and nine swoon-worthy industrial wedding venues in New York that you will want to check out asap! :)

The glam of Galia Lahav intertwined with the charm of the city and nine swoon-worthy industrial wedding venues in New York that you will want to check out asap! 🙂

You have a tentative date and guest count and it’s time to look for the perfect space for your wedding. Break the mold from the traditional hotel wedding venue and choose a unique space with a story to tell and a cool and intimate vibe.

Most industrial wedding venues can be rented as raw spaces. This means, you can decorate it as little or as much as you wish – as long as you meet construction codes, of course. Quite the opposite of the traditional venue where you gotta, gotta take the chairs!! 😉

We’ve rounded up nine industrial wedding venues in New York that will make your guests’ jaws drop as they celebrate your happily ever after. From Brooklyn to Queens to Upstate New York, any of these spaces are sure to provide the flexibility of color, personality and decor any modern couple looks for on this day and age.

Industrial Wedding Venues in Brooklyn That Will Take Your Breath Away

Brooklyn happens to be “the” place in New York where you will find most of the industrial wedding venues. The number of refurbished spaces that started out as foundries, piers, steel factories and other manufacturers gave way through its gentrification to some of the most breathtakingly unique industrial wedding venues in New York.



The Green Building, Brooklyn, NY

The Green Building was built in 1889 as a brass foundry. Today it serves as 6,000 square foot event venue with indoor and outdoor space. This building will compliment wedding décor with exposed brick walls, chandeliers, wood-beamed ceilings and a private courtyard.

Location: 452 Union St, Brooklyn, NY 11231

Website: thegreenbuildingnyc.com/weddings/

Capacity: up to 250 guests for a cocktail party or 160 for a sit-down dinner with room for a dance floor

From: $16,000 (elopements can be more affordable, just ask!)

Industrial wedding venues in Brooklyn that will take your breath away The Green Building, Brooklyn, NY. Photos by Matt of Our Labor of Love.

Industrial wedding venues in Brooklyn that will take your breath away The Green Building, Brooklyn, NY. Photos by Matt of Our Labor of Love.

New York City wedding at The Green Building in Brooklyn built in 1889 as a brass foundry.

New York City wedding at The Green Building in Brooklyn built in 1889 as a brass foundry.

Brooklyn Winery, Brooklyn, NY

When in New York, there’s no need to head out all the way to Napa Valley! Host your guests in a romantic, vintage-inspired space at the Brooklyn Winery. Guests can enjoy drinking the wine made on site while celebrating the happy couple’s joyful event in an intimate, candlelit space. No matter how big your event, guests will be able to feel a personal connection to the space and the couple saying “I do.”

Location: 213 N. 8th St., Brooklyn, NY 11211

Website: http://bkwinery.com

Capacity: depends on the season

From: $39,000

Modern winter wedding ceremony at the Brooklyn Winery. Photography: Ashley Caroline.

Modern winter wedding ceremony at the Brooklyn Winery. Photography: Ashley Caroline.

Beauty and old world charm at this industrial style Brooklyn Winery wedding.

Beauty and old world charm at this industrial style Brooklyn Winery wedding.

Love this table setting! Industrial wedding venues in New York. Photo of the Brooklyn Winery, Brooklyn, New York.

Love this table setting! Industrial wedding venues in New York. Photo of the Brooklyn Winery, Brooklyn, New York.

Wythe Hotel in Brooklyn, NY

Give your wedding an early 1900s feel at the Wythe Hotel. If the exposed brick, steel window frames, and wood floors don’t make and impression, then the terraces overlooking Manhattan surely will. This venue is perfect for small weddings or those with up to 250 guests.

Location: 80 Wythe Avenue, Brooklyn, NY 11249

Website: http://wythehotel.com/

Capacity: 250

From: $37,000

Wythe Hotel in Brooklyn: This venue is perfect for small weddings or those with up to 250 guests. Photography: Belathée Photography.

Wythe Hotel in Brooklyn: This venue is perfect for small weddings or those with up to 250 guests. Photography: Belathée Photography.

A garden-inspired industrial wedding in New York at The Wythe's patio, complete with exposed beams and strings of café lights.

A garden-inspired industrial wedding in New York at The Wythe’s patio, complete with exposed beams and strings of café lights.

Liberty Warehouse in Brooklyn, NY

Host your wedding with Statue of Liberty, Verrazano Bridge and riverfront views at the Liberty Warehouse in Brooklyn. Ceremonies can be held indoor or outdoor. Sure, exposed brick is nice but your guests will be left with an unforgettable night as the dance floor is illuminated with light reflecting from the Hudson. This venue is better suited for larger events as they have a 175 guest minimum on Saturday nights.

Location: 260 Conover St, Brooklyn, NY 11231

Website: http://www.thelibertywarehouse.com/

Capacity: 400 for a sit-down dinner and 1500 for a cocktail dinner

From: $47,000

A waterfront view to die for at The Liberty Warehouse. Nine industrial wedding venues in New York that will take your breath away. Photography: Levi Stolove Photography, NY wedding photographers.

A waterfront view to die for at The Liberty Warehouse. Nine industrial wedding venues in New York that will take your breath away. Photography: Levi Stolove Photography, NY wedding photographers.

The liberty warehouse is a unique industrial wedding venue in Brooklyn, NY. Don't you agree? Photography: a guy + a girl photography – New York wedding photography – Los Angeles wedding photography.

The liberty warehouse is a unique industrial wedding venue in Brooklyn, NY. Don’t you agree? Photography: a guy + a girl photography – New York wedding photography – Los Angeles wedding photography.




Greenpoint Loft, Brooklyn, NY

Greenpoint Loft is a pre-war rope warehouse turned chic event space. Let history intertwine with your wedding day as you experience the building’s timelessly effervescent vibes. This space also has rooftop views of the Manhattan Skyline which are sure to leave your guests speechless.

Location: 67 West St, Brooklyn, NY 11222

Website: http://www.greenpointloft.com

Capacity: 185

From: $7,000

Greenpoint Loft industrial inspo tablesetting. Amber glass bud vase arrangements with pale peach and spray roses, ranunculus, echinacea and wildflower accents on a kraft paper runner, accented with mirror glass candles. Swoon!

Greenpoint Loft industrial inspo tablesetting. Swoon!

The Greenpoint Loft is one of the best industrial wedding venues in New York.

The Greenpoint Loft is one of the best industrial wedding venues in New York.

Stunning Industrial Wedding Venues in Queens, New York

According to USA Today, Queens is the most ethnically diverse urban area in the world. This means, you will be able to find the most varied caterers for your special day within a few miles-range. Exposed brick, metal and geometric patterns are some of the characteristics of industrial wedding venues, Let’s explore a couple of venues in Queens, NY that definitely caught our eye!

Knockdown Center in Queens, New York

For a funky, artsy vibe look no further than the Knockdown Center in Queens, NY. Brooklyn is not the only place that can offer an unforgettable venue. The Knockdown Center is known for hosting music and art events but don’t write them off for weddings. Their century=old building used to host a glass factory and, years later, a door factory (hence its name) Book this venue for its 40-foot ceilings,  their built-in archway made of brick, wood and steel and its eclectic vibe.

Location: 52-19 Flushing Ave., at 54th St.; Maspeth, Queens

Website: http://knockdown.center

Capacity: 300

From: $12,000

Industrial wedding venues in New York: Knockdown Center. Photography: Carolina Sandretto and Denueva Photo.

Industrial wedding venues in New York: Knockdown Center. Photography: Carolina Sandretto and Denueva Photo.

Out of all of the fabulous industrial wedding venues in New York we fell in love with the Knockdown Center, an industrial glass factory.

Out of all of the fabulous industrial wedding venues in New York we fell in love with the Knockdown Center, an industrial glass factory.

The Foundry, Long Island City, New York

The Foundry is the place to go if you want a Brooklyn-vibe in Queens. Exposed brick, steel beams, and antique bulbs will add charm to your wedding day. Needless to say, the gorgeous view of the Manhattan skyline will add to its charm and it will allow for some amazing photo-ops. The best part of the building might be the Greenhouse, where vines climb the brick and window panes fill the space with natural light. If you are looking for a smaller space to host an intimate wedding, ask for The Albra Room. You will fall in love with its arched walkways and clean lines. Check out the outdoor area. It’s truly magnificent!

Location: 42-38 Ninth Street, Long Island City, NY 11101

Website: http://www.thefoundry.info

Capacity: 120 to 180

From: $16,000

The Foundry is the place to go if you want a Brooklyn-vibe in Queens.

The Foundry is the place to go if you want a Brooklyn-vibe in Queens.

The Foundry is a 19th Century building that has been meticulously restored to showcase its industrial character and stunning proportions. Photography: Pink.

The Foundry is a 19th Century building that has been meticulously restored to showcase its industrial character and stunning proportions. Photography: Pink.

Charming Industrial Wedding Venues in Upstate New York

If you prefer the calm of the countryside mixed in with Brooklyn’s multifaceted and diverse atmosphere, these industrial wedding venues in New York are a must-see. Add them to your list because you may not want to miss out on these spaces!

The Cracker Factory in Upstate NY

If you are heading upstate for your big day, consider The Cracker Factory. You will be awe-struck by the floor-to-ceiling windows. They will allow you to feel you are outdoors even if it’s a bit too cold for that kind of thing. To say this straight-razor factory turned wedding venue has charm is an understatement.

Location: 35 Lehigh St, Geneva, NY 14456

Website: thecrackerfactory.org

Capacity: 340

From: $2,250

Charming industrial wedding venues in Upstate New York. The Cracker Factory.

Charming industrial wedding venues in Upstate New York. The Cracker Factory.

Digging all these chic industrial vibes. Photo: Ebersole Photography.

Digging all these chic industrial vibes. Photo: Ebersole Photography.

Basilica Hudson in Upstate NY

Located in the history city of Hudson, Basilica Hudson is a reclaimed industrial space originally built in the 1880s. When renting the Basilica, you get access to the building and grounds for the entire weekend, from Noon Friday to Noon Sunday. The space draws on inspiration from its local surroundings with a mission to be a platform for unconventional art experiences. Especially for larger events, this space will leave a remarkable impression, one that your guests will not soon forget.

Location: 110 S. Front St Hudson, NY 12534

Website: basilicahudson.org

Capacity: 325 seated guests in the Main Hall

From: $3,500 (take note winter brides as this starting price is for off season!)

We promise to cover more about this magical venue on an upcoming article.

Basilica Hudson an idyllic industrial wedding venue in Upstate New York. Photography: James Autery, New York photographer.

Basilica Hudson an idyllic industrial wedding venue in Upstate New York. Photography: James Autery, New York photographer.

Basilica Hudson weddings in NY. The industrial feel of the building shows on its exposed brick walls, an incredible old steel truss system and a massive terracotta ceiling.

The industrial feel of the building shows on its exposed brick walls, an incredible old steel truss system and a massive terracotta ceiling.

Swoon-Worthy Industrial Wedding Venues in New York Photo Gallery

  • Modern industrial New York Wedding at Basilica Hudson.

    Romantic and modern industrial New York Wedding at Basilica Hudson a restored factory venue in Hudson, New York.
  • Simple and modern industrial wedding invitation.

    Simple and modern industrial wedding invitation for a fantastic shindig at the Brooklyn Winery. Photography: Bia Sampaio.
  • Raw space: Greenpoint Loft wedding in Brooklyn, NY

    Raw space: Greenpoint Loft wedding in Brooklyn, NY by lindseymevents and Therese Winberg Photography.
  • Industrial wedding venue in New York, the Greenpoint Loft.

    The perfect ambiance for an industrial wedding venue in New York at the Greenpoint Loft. Photo: Khaki Bedford Photography.
  • Candlelit wedding reception Liberty Warehouse.

    A chic candlelit wedding reception held within an industrial wedding venue in Brooklyn, NY at Liberty Warehouse. Photography: Levi Stolove Photography.
  • Classic urban New York wedding The Foundry

    Classic urban New York wedding from Firefly Events at The Foundry.
  • The Foundry wedding decor.

    Romantic table numbers and pink floral decor at The Foundry. Photography: Emily Delamater.

Are you still looking for the perfect space for your perfect day? Or did our nine must-see industrial wedding venues in New York fill up your list?

Check out these nine swoon-worthy industrial wedding venues in New York and start booking yours! They go fast! The Foundry. Photography: Christina Szczupak.

Check out these nine swoon-worthy industrial wedding venues in New York and start booking yours! They go fast! The Foundry. Photography: Christina Szczupak.

Floral garland and candle lanterns down the stairs of a modern industrial fall wedding. Photo: Albert Bardina Photography.

Floral garland and candle lanterns down the stairs of a modern industrial fall wedding. Photo: Albert Bardina Photography.

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