Feel free to get creative when getting married for the second time. Read these second marriage etiquette tips and get inspired by some fantastic ideas!
Gone are the days when the second marriage is seen as a social stigma. Today, whether you want an elaborate shindig or an intimate second wedding, the choice is completely yours.
Second Marriage Wedding Etiquette: To Follow or Not To Follow?
Let’s take a look at a few rules you may want to follow when celebrating your second (or third, or fourth) nuptials. Because, truth be told, you can write your very own second marriage wedding etiquette book and never be wrong. Well, maybe with a few exceptions.
Here are two rules you will want to truly consider:
- If either of you have children, let them know they are of major importance in the new union. No matter their age, give them a role they’d be happy to play in the course of events. Always be sensitive to the child’s feelings and try to cater to them as much as possible. And never, ever, leave them out of the equation.
- Should you invite your ex and his family? Tread carefully on this one. You may be on the best of terms with your ex, their friends and family, but your second marriage is a fresh start. Trust me, you don’t need the awkwardness.
And now, a few second marriage wedding etiquette tips to follow (or not!)
1Should I still announce the wedding?
If you don’t know the difference between wedding announcements and wedding invitations, the announcements are sent out after the wedding to let people know you got married. Not too many couples follow this tradition but if you do, you can announce your second wedding like you did the first.
2Wording your invitations: What name should I use?
Second marriages come with a bit of unease when wording the invitation. Friends and colleagues may know you by your ex-spouse’s first name. A golden rule is to use the name you’re comfortable with. And if you are worried people might get confused, indicate for clarity on the invite. Or just give them a call.
3Bridal etiquette: Say yes to the white wedding gown
Wear what you desire when getting married for the second time. Pick that gorgeous blush gown, or go for a traditional white bridal look. Short, long, princess-cut or ball gown and even a pair of strikingly white bridal pants. Take something that flatters your figure—whatever color. Note that dinner rehearsals are really not necessary. You can even do away with the garter and bouquet tossing!
All is permitted at any wedding and even more so the second time around! Check out these fantastic ideas for modern brides.
4Giving away the bride at a second marriage ceremony
Let your imagination run wild. Nowadays, it can be anyone or no one. Your (child) children, mother, grandparents, or even your best friend may do just fine. Furthermore, you can even have your two most favorite people walk you down the aisle.
5Wedding registry etiquette
You might not want gifts (not many second marriages do), but you still need to register to give guidance to guests who want to give. You may opt for an online wedding registry or a honeymoon fund! In both cases, you get the cash! Not a bad idea, right?
Alternative Wedding Ideas For A Second Marriage
If there is one thing we know, is that couples feel really free to do what their like and enjoy when getting married for the second time. That’s why we rounded up some fantastic alternative wedding ideas for a second marriage celebration. Let your imagination take hold and remember to make it memorable!
Shake things up! Brunch weddings are all the rage and perfect for after a small and intimate civil ceremony. Or ask your favorite coffee place if you can host a pop up wedding (no more than 8 people, please) at their space with no music and no need for decorations. Definitely a less casual setup that is fun for everybody. Cut the cake first. Or even welcome the guests at the entrance.
Surprise your guests. Make it yours. It’s your second marriage—a second chance to show off your unique style. However, make your dreams budget-friendly and realistic. For example, rent a beach house for a weekend and celebrate with your closest friends. A truly unforgettable experience.
Destination Weddings: Celebration and Honeymoon All in One
Consider getting wed at an intimate or unique destination location. The beach, a snowy mountain resort, or your mutual favorite place in the world. By hosting a destination wedding, you can add a new tone and a memorable setting to your second nuptials.
Plan an entirely different second wedding from the first, and add a fresh start to your union. Put in that unconventional flavor and have fun. Adventure-seeking couples may get married by a sherpa at the foot of the Himalayas. Wouldn’t that be cool?
Why Getting Married for the Second Time is Much Better Than The First
Getting married for the second time is one of the boldest steps you can take in your life. But the truth is, a lot wiser, caring, trusting you is available for the taking. Of course, things do get bet better the second time around.
Life at 40 looks much different than life at 20. You can use that first-hand experience to build a stronger and more realistic relationship. You know what you want, you are older and more experienced and you know marriage is not all roses. You can own your wrongs and you are better prepared to build a loving, new and wonderful life together.
Remember that marriage is a choice and, if you decide to give it another go, be all in. But of course, have fun in the process!!! Keep in touch! Follow us on Pinterest, Facebook or Instagram for more ideas on how to celebrate a second marriage or a first! 🙂
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