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Curious about the groom’s cake tradition? Let’s find out what a groom’s cake is, how and when it is served? And we couldn’t leave out, who pays for it?

Traditionally, a liquor-infused fruit cake was quite popular for a groom’s cake. Let's keep the tradition alive!

Traditionally, a liquor-infused fruit cake was quite popular for a groom’s cake. Let’s keep the tradition alive!

Many weddings don’t even have a groom’s cake, but it’s an age-old tradition that’s actually quite special. Let’s talk about this sweet confection and get inspired by quite a few original ideas!

So, What is a Groom’s Cake?

The groom’s cake is wedding tradition that originated (yes, you guessed it) in Victorian England! Just like the traditional wedding cake, it started out as a fruit cake. Later on, this trend arrived to the United States where it became more of a Southern wedding tradition.

It’s showcased right next to the wedding cake and is usually cut later and placed into take-home boxes for the guests to enjoy later on. Originally, the groom was supposed to decorate his own cake but now it just reflects his interests and personality, as well as his favorite cake flavor.

Who Pays for this Cake?

It is customary for the groom’s parents to cover this wedding expense. Some grooms pay for it themselves and sometimes, it’s the bride the one that decides to surprise his hubby-to-be with a confection she knows he will love.

When is the Groom’s Cake Served?

This cake was intended to be shared with the groomsmen – just like the bride’s cake is for the bridesmaids. Nowadays is either served at the rehearsal dinner or after the wedding cake.

Another interesting age-old tradition is that the groom’s cake was never served. It was boxed and given to your single female guests to take home. Supposedly, if they slept with it under their pillow, they would dream about their future husband. Crazy, right! I doubt anybody is doing this now, but hey, whatever works…

Celebrate the biker in him. The groom's cake tradition.

Celebrate the biker in him.

For the outdoorsy groom, one of the most creative cakes i have ever seen.

For the outdoorsy groom, one of the most creative cakes i have ever seen.

Basically, you can cut it whenever you want. So, have the caterer slice up and serve to your guests at the rehearsal dinner or after the wedding cake. Or you can keep tradition and send your guests home with a boxed up slice!

How Many People Does a Groom’s Cake Serve?

It all depends on its intended use. If it’s meant to be shared with the groomsmen or served at the rehearsal, a slice per person will be enough. If you plan on having it after the wedding cake, think half a slice per guest. People will be pretty full by then.

Scrumptious and original groom's cake by Dustin Meyer Photography.

Scrumptious and original groom’s cake by Dustin Meyer Photography.

There's no obligation to have a groom's cake at a wedding. He can choose a few confections for the reception's dessert table. Like these raspberry chocolate mini cakes. Photo: Gerald Goh.

There’s no obligation to have a groom’s cake at a wedding. He can choose a few confections for the reception’s dessert table. Like these raspberry chocolate mini cakes. Photo: Gerald Goh.

Gotham City, Dr. Who and all of his fav characters into one original groom's cake by Chrissie Boon.

Gotham City, Dr. Who and all of his fav characters into one original groom’s cake by Chrissie Boon.




More on the Groom’s Cake Tradition

“A wedding without cake would be a wedding without protocol, a rite without confirmation.” William Woys Weaver, University of Pennsylvania.

Traditionally, a liquor-infused fruit cake was quite popular for a groom’s cake, but now it’s usually whatever flavor the groom loves. Think anything from decadent chocolate to a stack of strawberry crepes (yum!) and everything in between.

As a Southern tradition, the cake’s theme could be a replica of his alma maters’ sports arena, a golf course or an homage to his favorite geekiest hobby. But if you are worried that his cake won’t look too good sitting next to your wedding cake, you can always showcase it at the dessert table!

Lego groom's cake.

Lego groom’s cake.

Fancy a lemon mascarpone crepe cake for the groom?

Fancy a lemon mascarpone crepe cake for the groom?

I think the groomsmen will love to partake of this cake, don't you agree?

I think the groomsmen will love to partake of this cake, don’t you agree?

Cool Groom’s Cake Ideas

A groom’s cake should reflect his passions and personality. He can literally pick anything he likes. From sports team colors to car racing to a barrel of his preferred drink and even a decadent drip cake covered with his favorite candy. This one is all about him, so let him get as creative as he wants.

For the car aficionado a '68 Camaro will do.

For the car aficionado a ’68 Camaro will do.

Get a decadent fudge ice cream brownie cake and enjoy, or send your guests home with a boxed slice. Cake by alsothecrumbsplease.

Get a decadent fudge ice cream brownie cake and enjoy, or send your guests home with a boxed slice. Cake by alsothecrumbsplease.

You can even merge your wedding cake with the groom's and share in your nerdy sides.

You can even merge your wedding cake with the groom’s and share in your nerdy sides.

The legendary Wookiee warrior in piped chocolate ganache to help him restore freedom to the galaxy.

The legendary Wookiee warrior in piped chocolate ganache to help him restore freedom to the galaxy.

Yes, it's a cake! With mini marshmallows for coals. How creative can a groom's cake be? Confection by cupadeecakes.

Yes, it’s a cake! With mini marshmallows for coals. How creative can a groom’s cake be? Confection by cupadeecakes.

A sweet gravity cake for your husband to be. Go Skittles!

A sweet gravity cake for your husband to be. Go Skittles!

Why not give the groom his own cake so that he can share in the spotlight too?

Why not give the groom his own cake so that he can share in the spotlight too?

Don’t forget to ask your baker if ordering both the wedding and the groom’s cake gets you a courtesy discount. Want to check out some wedding food ideas or see more groom-related inspo?

 

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How much do you know about types of wedding suits for grooms? We cover all the basics and more on this article. Check it out!

Love this suit for a civil ceremony or as semi-formal groom attire. Find out about types of wedding suits for grooms & how to find your best fit.

Love this suit for a civil ceremony or as semi-formal groom attire.

From simple designer wedding suits to a classic wedding tuxedo, there are several types of wedding suits for grooms to rock these days. Let’s define the different types of wedding suits and figure out which the most appropriate for your big day.

Selecting that appropriate wedding suit style could always get tricky. But the last thing a man wants is to look sloppy beside his stunning bride on their big day. Be it a church celebration or a casual backyard affair, the groom’s wedding suits should always flow with the wedding theme. And more importantly complement the bride’s attire without stealing the spotlight.

So What are the Types of Wedding Suits for Grooms?

From the most formal (or black-tie) weddings to the least formal and most festive event, we’ve got you covered. After all, a suit is a two or three piece outfit that consists of a trouser, jacket with an optional waistcoat or vest. Let’s match the types of wedding suits for grooms to the wedding dress code the bride demands. 😉

Types of Wedding Suits for Men for Black Tie Affairs

Three types of wedding suits fall into this category: the evening tailcoat, the tuxedo and the dinner suit.

Evening Tail Suit

The evening tail suit or tailcoat is the most formal option of them all. We have all seen them in movies where the event is super elite. The most formal option consists of a back tailcoat, which is worn open as it fits the body very snugly, a black pair of trousers, white shirt with a detachable collar, a bow tie, marcella waistcoat and patent leather shoes.



The purple tie stands out with this evening tail suit for a black tie wedding.

The purple tie stands out with this evening tail suit for a black tie wedding.

Three piece tweed suit for a winter wedding.

Three piece tweed suit for a winter wedding.

Make sure to pick high quality fabrics for your wedding suit.

Make sure to pick high quality fabrics for your wedding suit.

Wedding Tuxedos

Not going out of style anytime soon, a classy tuxedo carries that element of formality into your wedding day. For a traditional experience, remember to keep it strictly black-tie, preferably a bow tie to remain super formal. The tuxedo differs from the wedding suit in that it always has a satin trim. For a more modern look, you may choose a light blue fabric with a contrasting navy blue satin.

Black tuxedo. Did anybody say Bond? By Xamns. Find out about types of wedding suits for grooms & how to find your best fit.

Black tuxedo. Did anybody say Bond? By Xamns.

Contrasting cummerbund and tie paired with a classic tuxedo.

Contrasting cummerbund and tie paired with a classic tuxedo.

Slender grooms can wear a higher button stance, like on this three piece tuxedo. Find out about types of wedding suits for grooms & how to find your best fit.

Slender grooms can wear a higher button stance, like on this three piece tuxedo.

Dinner Suits

Whether you are flashing a single-breasted or a double-breasted type of wedding suit, you can opt for a white and black combination to set a traditional tone. These types of wedding suits for grooms won’t steal the shine off the bride but will make you look absolutely stunning. For a formal look, pick a bow tie.

Navy blue american cut wedding suit.

Navy blue american cut wedding suit.

Tailored dinner suit tux for classy grooms.

Tailored dinner suit tux for classy grooms.

Rami Salamoun groomwear with slim fit in black and a single pocket.

Rami Salamoun groomwear with slim fit in black and a single pocket.




Types of Wedding Suits for Grooms at Semi-Formal Weddings

Nothings says you cannot amp it up and wear a tux at a semi-formal or cocktail wedding but you can take a few more liberties here.

Wedding Suit Attire

If the groom wants to sport a more informal look at the wedding, a more casual attire is befitting. These suits come in different silhouettes.

The double breasted or Italian style suit – with 4 to 6 buttons and better for tall or slender men – is more tailored and formal than its single breasted British style counterpart – the one that has vents in the back of the jacket. They are usually worn with long ties but bow ties are not off the table. if you are feeling a little adventurous, pick pastel-colored wedding suits.

Three piece wedding suit in grey and lavender with bow tie and pocket square.

Three piece wedding suit in grey and lavender with bow tie and pocket square.

Delicate plaid matched with a red tie and pocket. Duper classy and semi formal.

Delicate plaid matched with a red tie and pocket. Duper classy and semi formal.

Slim fit tuxedo with notched lapel.

Slim fit tuxedo with notched lapel by Dhgate.

Business Suits

Again, you can choose the style that best fits your figure: single or double-breasted, two or three buttons and a waist coat. Pair it with a dress shirt and a solid or patterned tie. Navy, gray, black or pinstripe will provide the level of formality needed to look fantastic by your bride. Don’t forget to pick a beautiful pair of cufflinks and lace up shoes or loafers. We recommend to wear a business suit for a civil ceremony.

Semi-formal types of wedding suits for grooms are made with a more relaxed taste in mind. So make sure to go crazy with a three-piece that just flatters your silhouette and wedding theme.

I think my brother got married in a suit like this one for his civil ceremony. By zeusFactor.

I think my brother got married in a suit like this one for his civil ceremony. By zeusFactor.

Modern street style for a brunch wedding by notey.

Modern street style for a brunch wedding by notey.

Pick your tie from The Tie Bar, in partnership with BHLDN for only $19.

Pick your tie from The Tie Bar, in partnership with BHLDN for only $19.

Types of Wedding Suits for Grooms at Casual Weddings

An informal wedding approves of a laid-back two-piece. So it doesn’t matter if you having beach party or some destination shindig, you can opt for an attire with or without a waistcoat. Alternatively, just can pull off wearing just a waistcoat and ditch the jacket for that casual, yet still elegant look.

These types of wedding suits for grooms allow there allow for a deviation from the usual white and black ceremony. You can get playful with hue—from light pastel colors of light blue, bright blue and even off-white.

Lounge suits are best for beach weddings because of their light to medium colors, they are more comfortable, can be worn with or without a tie, are usually single breasted but you can go three buttons to give it a more formal look. But nothing says casual attire like a bow tie and a pair of adjustable suspenders.

Relaxed casual and stylish white linen wedding suit for grooms.

Relaxed casual and stylish white linen wedding suit for grooms.

Casual beach wedding attire for the groom.

Casual beach wedding attire for the groom.

Brown tweed three piece suit and bow tie for a vintage woodland wedding. Photographer: Jenna Woodward Photography.

Brown tweed three piece suit and bow tie for a vintage woodland wedding. Photographer: Jenna Woodward Photography.

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Final Tips: Choosing Your Best Fit

Whether renting or buying wedding suits for grooms, the fit must be right to remain sharp. Aside from choosing the right color, fabric, detailing and stitching, you still need a wedding suit style that complements your physique. Check out these tips!

Red is coming strong for 2018. How about a red tuxedo with black satin notch lapel by perfecttux?

Red is coming strong for 2018. How about a red tuxedo with black satin notch lapel by perfecttux?

  • If the groom is short or stocky, avoid excess fabric, long jackets, high button stances and pants with lots of break. Become friends with the pocket square and show some cuff.
  • Your suit shoulders should not slouch. Make sure they keep you walking tall and fit.
  • If you have a choice between two or three buttons, go for two. Three will always make you look more boxy – of course, unless that’s what you are going for.
  • The sleeves should end at the height of your wrists.
  • Have your tailor narrow the suit to your figure and get rid of excess fabric.
  • Don’t go lapel crazy. maybe 2 inches at its widest point.

We hope this has helped you sort out what you should wear at your wedding. Don’t forget to take a look at  this article on the groom’s tie and all you need to know about it!

Groom tuxedo collection by Vera Wang. Now it's not just her that can wear Vera. :)

Groom tuxedo collection by Vera Wang. Now it’s not just her that can wear Vera. 🙂

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Discover how to choose the right color and style for the groom’s tie and have him look picture perfect on your big day!

Floral groom's tie, perfect for a modern or boho wedding.

Floral groom’s tie, perfect for a modern or boho wedding.

There is a fair amount of time spent picking out what the bride will be wearing on the big day, but it is important not to overlook the groom’s style. Let’s be honest, we know the bride is going to get the majority of the attention here, but the groom is going to want to look and feel great too, after all.

How To Choose the Right Color and Style for the Big Day

Sorry guys, when it comes down to the color of your tie, I’m sure the bride will have a say. But if your wedding palette has two colors, the groom can wear one of the shades while the rest of the guys wear the other.

Now that the color has been decided, let’s move on to picking the right groom’s tie. Many grooms email us asking about the fabric of a particular tie so I decided I could give a little rundown of the most common fabrics for ties.

The Groom’s Tie: How to Pick the Fabric

It’s best to start with the month the wedding will be held. Fabrics like cotton and linen who are light and breezy are perfect for summery weddings. Other fabrics like wool, tweed, cashmere and different wool blends are more suited for the winter.

Rayon, polyester and silk wear well all year round. But buyer beware when it comes down to silk neckties! There are many kinds of silk out there and the quality varies. The most commonly used for men’s ties are doupioni silk (its threads are uneven and irregular), shantung (very smooth and has hardly any slubs), silk linen (it actually has the look of linen) and satin which is glossy and smooth on one side and matte on the other.



Peach textured groom's tie. Always consider the collar width before picking the tie style! Photographer: Kristen Weaver.

Peach textured groom’s tie. Always consider the collar width before picking the tie style! Photographer: Kristen Weaver.

Blue tie fit for a civil ceremony, a daytime wedding or an elopement by zeusfactor

Blue tie fit for a civil ceremony, a daytime wedding or an elopement by zeusfactor

The Groom’s Tie: Let’s Get To Know Their Styles

What to wear? What to wear? Depending on the formality of the affair, you may want to take your pick of the following types and styles of groom’s ties. But you must also consider the collar style and width before picking the tie! Let’s review some of the groom’s tie styles.

The Necktie

A classic. This is the long tie most commonly associated with working in an office. But, that’s not to say it should not be worn for a wedding. Match the tie to the wedding colors to give a splash of color and fun to the groom’s look.

Love this handmade cotton floral tie for the civil ceremony. The groom will look so modern!

Love this handmade cotton floral tie for the civil ceremony. The groom will look so modern! (Get it here)

The Ascot

If your groom has been searching his entire life for an excuse to wear an Ascot, now is the time. An ascot is much more formal and is a folded tie that is wider than a necktie and usually won with a stickpin or tie tack. Typically, Ascots are a patterned material, but they can be neutral, think blacks or grays, or the wedding colors to match the décor.

Bow Tie

Bow ties are a symmetrical ribbon of fabric that tie together to form two loops that sit at the collar of the groom’s dress shirt. Most commonly, bow ties are worn with tuxedos, but fun, patterned bow ties also pair well with suits. Grooms can wear black bow ties for very formal looks or match the bridesmaid’s dresses when wearing a tuxedo.

Modern black suit with velvet bow tie, shawl collar, and "crown folded" pocket square.

Modern black suit with velvet bow tie, shawl collar, and “crown folded” pocket square.




The Euro Tie is a middle ground between the necktie and the Ascot. Gold orange paisley silk cravat.

The Euro Tie is a middle ground between the necktie and the Ascot. Gold orange paisley silk cravat.

Euro Tie or Cravat

The Euro Tie is a middle ground between necktie and Ascot. It’s a long tie with a square bottom, knotted at the beck and worn with a spread collar shirt. It’s formal but not quite Ascot-level formal.

Here is a great tip for grooms to look great on your big day. Make sure the widest part of your tie matches the width of the lapel chosen for your wedding.

Photo Gallery to Help you Pick your Most Fabulous Groom’s Tie

How to “Tie The Knot”: The Half-Windsor Knot

There are many ways to tie a knot (pun intended) 😉 but today we will share how to tie the Half-Windsor knot! Medium to light thickness for ties are this year’s trend. Therefore, the half-Windsor is easier and more fitting. It is also nice and symmetrical but not quite as bulky as the Windsor knot.

Modern groom's tie in gray with a Half-Windsor knot. Brooklyn Wedding by Lauren Balingit Photography.

Modern groom’s tie in gray with a Half-Windsor knot. Brooklyn Wedding by Lauren Balingit Photography.

Remember that your body type matters when picking a tie. The half-Windsor is narrower and longer and looks best on slimmer taller guys.

  1. Lay the tie around your neck and stand in front of a mirror. The wide end should be on your right and the small or narrow end should be on your left when looking into the mirror. The wider end should hang about 12 inches lower than the smaller end.
  2. In front of you, cross the wide end over the narrow end, making an “X.”
  3. Still holding the wide end, go under the small end and to the right
  4. Now, pull the wide end up to the center towards the necktie
  5. Bring the wide end through the neck loop from the front towards the back and left.
  6. Cross the wide end over the narrow end to the right
  7. Now bring it upwards again, this time from beneath the neck loop
  8. Pull it through the loop you just created in the front and then straight down
  9. Use both hands to adjust the tie until it sits tight under your collar.
  10. You look terrific!! 🙂

Grooms now is your time to shine as brightly as the bride. Ok, maybe not as brightly, but don’t miss this chance to show off your personal style when picking your tie! Most of the groom’s ties can be found and shipped worldwide at Dessy. Check them out! Now back to the brides! Discover these Timeless, Elegant and Sexy Wedding Dresses for the Modern Bride!

How good are you at tying the knot? Discover how to tie a half windsor knot! (Don't worry, this is not it) ;) Wearing a tie makes you look confident.

How good are you at tying the knot? Discover how to tie a half windsor knot! (Don’t worry, this is not it) 😉 Wearing a tie makes you look confident.

Match the tie to the wedding palette to give a splash of color and fun to the groom’s look. Wedding photography: Claryphoto.

Match the tie to the wedding palette to give a splash of color and fun to the groom’s look. Wedding photography: Claryphoto.

Matte satin bow tie and pocket square.

Matte satin bow tie and pocket square. Dessy.

There are so many ways to wear a tie... Check out this Cat Greek Ascot by Boris Mocka.

There are so many ways to wear a tie… Check out this Cat Greek Ascot by Boris Mocka.

The tie patch is a wonderful keepsake that will add to the love, happiness, and remembrance of your big wedding day!

The tie patch is a wonderful keepsake that will add to the love, happiness, and remembrance of your big wedding day! (Get yours here!)

Men's neck ties in Dupioni silk. How to pick the groom's tie.

Men’s neck ties in Dupioni silk. Dessy.

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